I see you, mamas and daddies. Maybe your child is going off to college. Perhaps he or she is starting a new chapter at the high school or middle school level. Maybe your baby is just beginning kindergarten. You may be one of those parents who has been home with your child since he or she was born and this is the first separation for you. Perhaps your child has special challenges that make school difficult.
“Back to school” isn’t happy for you or maybe just leaves you with mixed emotions.
I get it. Me, too.
Last year, when my son started 3k, he struggled in a traditional classroom. Our faith was tested as he started acting out in ways we had never seen before and we ended up having to put him back in daycare. We started to see the blessing in those trying times as he thrived in his new daycare setting, learning so much in that time.
We put him through testing during which we found out he has sensory processing disorder (SPD). He then began bi-weekly occupational therapy and has picked up some amazing coping and self-regulation skills.
The final piece of the puzzle, I believe, was my leaving full-time work to come home with him. We’ve seen incredible progress just in those few months since then. If it weren’t for the challenges of last year, it may have never happened.
God knows what He’s doing even when we don’t understand it. Those sleepless nights of tears and begging God for help are just a memory now.
Now he starts 4k. Soon. Back to a traditional classroom. I love his teacher and his new school already and overall feel pretty positive about the coming school year.
However, in the back of my mind, I have nagging anxiety. The enemy pushes me to believe that nothing has changed and that God is going to allow us to go through the same kind of suffering again.
Maybe he does that to you, too. He brings to your mind the worst-case scenarios of what could happen with your child. He makes you doubt the people who have influence over them. If your kids are older, he puts seeds of mistrust in them and their ability to make good choices.
But forget him. He’s a liar. What does GOD say about the matter?
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6-7
Don’t. Be. Anxious. That’s easier said than done, right? And it’s a daily battle. I can be perfectly fine one day and the next day negativity sets in and I want to keep my son at home in a protective bubble.
But look at what God promises us if we take it all to Him in prayer. Peace. Isn’t “peace” a wonderful word? Just hearing (or reading) it causes me to take a deep breath and let it all go for the moment. If we will pray, He gives us peace.
Here’s another one:
“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” – Isaiah 26:3
Another peace promise. If we keep our minds on Him, He will give us peace.
I just need to give it to God and let Him replace my anxiety with peace. Doesn’t seem like a fair trade-off, but that’s what He promised in His Word.
Let’s do it together. Let’s trust God with our children and in return, bask in His peace.
Love in Christ,
All Scripture used is from the ESV.